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Gay & Fat

by DaveyWaveyRaw

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Published 30 Sep 2016

As a larger gay man, this is Martijn's body image journey from self loathing to self-celebration. Big thank you to IGLTA: https://www.iglta.org Big thank you to Orbitz: http://www.orbitz.com Thank you to the Lloyd Hotel: http://www.lloydhotel.com/ Check out Gay & Night Magazine: https://www.facebook.com/GayNightMagazine Get Davey's DirtyFit Underwear: http://www.dirtyfitapparel.com Subscribe to Davey! ♥ http://bit.ly/1gpkiJ5 Follow Davey on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/OfficialDave ... Like Davey Wavey on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/DaveyWaveyOff ... Davey's Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/TheDaveyWavey Davey's second YouTube channel: /DaveyWaveyRaw Get Davey's videos 7 days early on Vessel: http://www.vessel.com/daveywavey Davey's Website: http://www.daveywavey.tv Music - Epidemic Sound

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Comments - 470

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@2OOPoVstrechnoy8 years ago I sometimes wonder if the huge amount of gay suicides also has to do with the stigma against men who aren' t seen as attractive enough. A lot of gay . ...Expand 123
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@phais38 years ago And this video is why, davey, that ever since your early days in toronto when you first started filming - i have watched, subscribed, consumed, and fell you have always, always been in inspiration to me. You have taught me about myself. You have taught me how to teach others about myself - and our community. You have stayed true and faithful to your subscribers.
this speaks to me.
years ago you promoted " you are beautiful, pass it on" i have passed this message along to people i come across in my life.
davey, just thank you. From the bottom of my heart. ...Expand 6
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@ThousandSon818 years ago And people wonder why i rarely interact with other gay men. 66
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@edmcan8 years ago I can relate to this guy completely, although i am a great deal older. Thanks for sharing this davey because it is becoming a greater issue than ever before. Man' s inhumanity to man never ceases to amaze me. 14
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@FFXIfan938 years ago You cant ridicule people for having a personal preference, but to go out of your way to make fun of someone like that and degrade them as a human being . ...Expand 112
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@thequestion48188 years ago I just realized this is part of that new video initiative you started, where you showcase lgbt people from around the world, but you' ve done videos . ...Expand 11
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@chrisbigham50568 years ago You are not fat or ugly. You are very handsome with a nice beard. Forget those losers! 12
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@terrybaker81568 years ago This is why i don' t identify as gay, just homosexual. Gay is the lifestyle, the look, the body shape, the culture etc. You have to fit in order to be gay. 23
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@siulzelaznog42488 years ago Thank you davey for doing this. You just gave me hope! 9
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@CH-tj2ru8 years ago I saw the title and said " me" 31
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@bpetruska15268 years ago I was lucky. Met my husband when we were 18 and 19, been together 11 years. Never have to worry about looking like a model. Makes me feel bad for other . ...Expand 5
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@alanrodriguez91928 years ago I' m so glad this video was made! Someone had to say this! Thank you! 8
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@jamiescott54618 years ago All you ignorant people who say, go to the gym, lose weight, etc. You don' t know anyone else' s struggles, who are you to judge? Btw just because some of us are slimmer, doesn' t mean your healthy! 56
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@sunemp3258 years ago So he dates skinny guys who like big guys? So he isnt attracted to people like him. Thats still
like saying fat isnt good enough. 23
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@ricardoquintanavallejo3418 years ago This project is beautiful. Thank you davey. 3
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@BrycenGaines8 years ago Omg i needed this so badly. Thank you for covering this issue. I' m new to the gay scene and am i' m a big guy and i' m also trans but one would . ...Expand 6
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@yujin79688 years ago I don' t care if he' s fat or not. He' s sooo cute! 21
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@OJ-xc2so8 years ago Martijn is the cutest most and with the warmest heart you can ever meet, i wish you a long happy healthy life. 2
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@jeffreybaits71858 years ago Yup im fat and gay and i love it i dont give a shit what other people think. 66
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@victorsoldo8 years ago God! I missed videos that have actual content in this chanel. It feels so good to watch actual good videos. 1
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@reddragon0423918 years ago I love my chubby, short, hairy little teddy bear more than anyone in the world! 4
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@golden-638 years ago i can' t tell you how many times i' ve been passed up because i' m thin. It works both ways. 18
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@VAChub4Muscle7 years ago Thank you for doing this video davey - i too as an overweight gay man have experienced people on various dating or fetish sites send me messages just to anyhow - thank you for doing a video on the topic of us bigger gay men. ...Expand 2
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@francismastro46668 years ago Great video davey! The irony is that gay ppl who are still discriminated against & rshould be less shallow because of what to go through- instead we are creating a culture that has the same stereotypes of straight ppl towards women- we treat each other like objects! It sucks!. ...Expand 15
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@howudoin1358 years ago You are gorgeous, and never let anyone tel you different! Lt; 3. 13
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@andweledwightilles69038 years ago Great video! Thanks for the honesty. I can relate. 2
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@ilyalisser83338 years ago Thank you for this video, i recognize so much. Although i am not quite as far as you martijn in regard to my self-esteem, it helps to hear experiences . ...Expand
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@kalobtheg8 years ago I' m on the opposite side of the spectrum (really thin) however, i struggle with body image too. This video was great to watch to gain a little more. 5
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@gaygamerboi8 years ago I injured my ankle two years ago and gained weight from inactivity. I basically shut down that aspect of my life out of shame and embarrassment. Now when . ...Expand
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@ainetmonroe8 years ago Gonna keep it short and sweet. Thank you for sharing your story. It' s good to know how others have dealt with this. 1
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@JustinKenward8 years ago I have to deal with my fatness a lot. Even with my dad who lives out of state. When i get to see him word one, even before hello is about my fat.
it' s very hard being gay and fat. 4
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@josephbenn74688 years ago Awesome video thanks for sharing this story with us. 2
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@riverboysf8 years ago One of the reasons i love your work so much, davey. Xo.
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@tyakabudz96248 years ago I' m glad i' m not the only one with these ideas. 1
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@Bestofthebestforever8 years ago The world needs more people like you and who think like you - and have your courage. Great. 2
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@CurumoTheGreat8 years ago Dear martijn, i have no words to explain how identified i feel with your words. You' re basically describing me. My friends know me as a strong, opinionated btw, i' d love to be your friend! I bet you' re an amazing person to have long conversations with!. ...Expand 3
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@aarxnw8 years ago People on dating websites judge people on their looks because you could write anything on your profile to make you sound better and the way you express . ...Expand 2
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@Eltoca218 years ago Almost all of the time i am drawn to bigger guys. 5
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@keithwebster90768 years ago Great little vid. I still struggle and i live in fear. But maybe there is hope. Davey you asked me to watch more, so i did. And boy, am i glad i did.
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@bo3tb8 years ago I am a chubby chaser. And i fuckin love it. Never been attracted to skinny guys. 4
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@rodney91148 years ago What the hell go' s through ones mind to make them want to go out of their way to insult someone? I understand if you' re not attracted to certain . ...Expand 10
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@87teenagedream8 years ago Your beard game is on point stay beautiful hunny! 2
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@JohnD888 years ago Playing for gay rugby teams and touring the world with them - i came to realise you are always somebodies type! You go to parties with people of every i found plenty of people in the states like bigger guys. ...Expand 2
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@coryrogers78484 years ago Trying to stay positive is difficult. The reality for most is that its a lonely world. 1
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@niznet1118 years ago " chasers" never heard that one before. Sounds good!
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@DJWhovian8 years ago There was a guy on grindr who every time i started new profile would message and tell me i was do ugly and looked like i had cerebral pulsy. I feel that . ...Expand 3
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@TheHighMage8 years ago I was once on grindr. I know i know don' t judge. So a guy messaged me asking if my weight was really 220, i said yes, thinking he was going to say then i met someone through a friend at a get together, we hit it off. He' s skinny, tiny even but he finds me attractive. He' s not a chaser, he just doesn' t mind body type.
even if one feels worthless, there' s always someone who will disagree. Hopefully you will meet them. ...Expand 1
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@eternally178 years ago It saddens me so much to hear and see how intentionally hurtful and insensitive some people can be. As members of the lgbt+ community we should be supportive . ...Expand 3
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@Geek_Chorus7 years ago I' ve been on those bear sites looking for chasers, it' s just bears, big hairy fat bears. Theis just a gay urban myth i' m convinced. Like the yeti. Or maybe i just look like a yeti? 1
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@42GG0T8 years ago These honest videos are so much better than your norm.
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@dueydotnet8 years ago We need more messages like this. About bears and big men on mainstream gay media. Well, also mainstream media as well. To destroy the stereotype that to . ...Expand 1
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@tuomasat69088 years ago What a great video! And a good looking guy!
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@GaramondGourmond8 years ago I' m fat, gay and ugly. But thankfully i don' t make it an issue because i' m particularly interesting in relationships. And as time goes by i . ...Expand 2
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@HyperSpeziFisch8 years ago Ok, is the standart for gays that different? As a straight girl, i think he looks really cute. I' m not particularly into any body type, and i get that . ...Expand 2
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@hdkk338 years ago Jaa! Martijn, wat een fijne boodschap: 1
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@oehrk8 years ago Thank u for lighting out that fatshameing is an issue in the gay community. I made the same experiences like he did.
there is no tolerance inside the community also we always want tolerance for the community. 1
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@terryxD8 years ago Still dreaming of the day theres a video on your channel with a bunch of shirtless bears:
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@SeanDDOLANITOUT8 years ago I wish i could hit the like button twice. 1
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@mikeax98737 years ago I' m overweight. Does not define me. I try my best to be active. Loving yourself will get your further in life than hating yourself. I been with the . ...Expand
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@jpage788 years ago I think attraction is far more based in self esteem than anything. Once i stopped fighting that i' m chubby and just accepted myself i started getting . ...Expand
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@ethant20518 years ago If you' re fat. You shoul go to the gym and burn i off. Slim down and become healthy. 14
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@iamrebbie62268 years ago There are apps that caters to bears, chubby, superchubby, cub and the likes like growlr, chasabl, jack' d so if you can stay out of grindr. There are . ...Expand
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@sanguine78472 years ago Being overweight all my life, i' ve been beaten and picked on. The first time someone hit on me it blew my mind, and i didn' t even know how to act. . ...Expand
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@scottsmith37468 years ago As soon as i gained weight i became undesirable. 16
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@steves91738 years ago I' ve been bullied my entire adolescent life and still get it at 38. Being told day after day i' m ugly and made fun of. Beat up called names and . ...Expand 1
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@thomasoakly42568 years ago I can so relate. People allow themselves to be real asses towards chubby and fat people, especially in the gay community and thats not okay. Personaly and he seems like a really cool guy!. ...Expand 1
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@hworth8 years ago I really hate the false idea that being attracted to fat men is a fetish. Is being attracted to muscular men a fetish? How about blonde men? Or twinks? . ...Expand 5
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@abelardorodriguez6308 years ago Perfect video. I have fortunately had one of the most beautiful men as a boyfriend but he destroyed himself. I have discovered that most beautiful men have insecurities too. Now i' m spoiled and waiting for the next. 1
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@xXdwsizevilXx8 years ago I have always felt like this, guys who are fit and in shape/pretty are given preference in this community and it kind of sucks. 1
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@mariusvanc8 years ago It' s not discrimination or shaming if someone doesn' t find you attractive and turns down your advances.
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@ECHO_PURGES8 years ago I' m a big guy myself 5' 11 and 355 the way i see it i' m a big ass teddy bear that keeps you safe and warm at night lol. Tbh there' s nothing i will say that there is a problem where people feel the need to degrade others for what they like or look like whether it' s skinny, chubs, bears, muscle bears etc. It' s called personal preference for a reason there should be no shaming in that it is bad enough we get shit for being gay from others that just don' t accept us but then we hate on each other dafuq? Think about it, isn' it sad that there are 2 different prides? There' s gay pride and bear pride? We can' t even get along in the same boat -_-. ...Expand 2
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@jmaprins8 years ago Goed gedaan jongen! Eindelijk iemand die zijn mond open trekt!
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@brandonburt42448 years ago I definitely love the message, i' m also gay and fat. But i still don' t like and/or think it' s ok to be fat. I mean for myself, i look in . ...Expand
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@kerrymckee76465 years ago When i was younger i was " too skinny" people didn' t think i ate. Then at 11 years old i got sick with crohn' s, rheumatoid arthritis, . ...Expand
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@leegay4eva8 years ago I get this all the time, people think the can tell you your fat, ugly just because they are sim or ' hot' and it does get me down sometimes.
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@ChristoperJames8 years ago Being a chaser, i sure was hoping we' d have a shirtless guy at the end like so many of your other videos; still great video though ( 5